I recently talked to my one of my friends about something I feel has been a new, extra pressure for women to be.
Of course, women have always been pressured to be something - a good mother, good spouse, hard worker, kind, not too "emotional", beautiful, have a certain body type...the list goes on and on.
But recently, I am finding a new pressure...to be strong.
I often see and hear men and women celebrating other women for their strength.
I'm sure at this point in the post, you are thinking..."Um, Eva...what is so wrong with that?"
Well, nothing at all.
Women are already strong and amazing, simply for who they are but it adds to a new set of pressure that we must also be this way outwardly and in the ways that you would expect to see strength.
Being independent, doing things yourself, not needing no man or woman to help you.
And don't get me wrong, these are all amazing qualities. But not all of us are like that, including me.
So until last week, I wouldn't describe myself as very strong.
Physically, I am just not literally strong. I am not one for pain and have minimum patience for discomfort. I can't really carry anything too heavy, and because of said low patience for pain, certain types of exercise and I don't exactly see eye to eye.
Emotionally, I wouldn't consider myself very "strong" either. It doesn't take much for me to start crying. Ask any of my friends, they all have a story of a time that I got hurt and how IMMEDIATELY, tears streamed down my face.
2 weeks ago I cried at the thought of my husband not being around one day.
I almost randomly cried when I saw Margot Robbie clapping for Allison Janney as she won an Oscar. I didn't even see I, Tonya!
Last week, I cried when I simply saw my friend's son because he looked so damn cute.
I could cry at the thought of this one scene in How I Met Your Mother.
Don't get me started on This Is Us or Grey's Anatomy *although these instances are super normal and to be expected*
I think you get the point - I am a crier!